*You know how that shit goes*
Social media… I use it, like we all do, but it doesn’t really add much to my life. Instagram, however, seems to be the source of all evil (I know that’s harsh, it’s for added drama).
How many times a day do I scroll through my feed of pictures & think:
- ugh, why am I not making progress like that? MUSCLES WHERE R U ???!1!11?
- I wish I had cute gym clothes 😦
- LOL he/she looks like a human after working out, pretty sure I usually look like a cave troll
- man I’m hungry…that looks delicious
- haha my abs will never exist
- y do I work a full time job? I should just get paid to workout all day..
- wow y am I poor I need more supplements !?!!11! 😦 😦
- Y AM I SO UGLY UGH PLZ HELP BASED GOD
…. Many a time. It’s a bad habit I’ve developed recently that I’m trying to get rid of. Why do I care what someone else wears while working out? I’m sure my next meal will also be delicious. I’m making progress, just in my own way!
There’s been a lot of talk about how social media is bad for self confidence/living successfully in reality. Internet stars are coming out & giving the truth behind Internet fame; the rotten things people say, the work that goes into maintaining their image, the way it provides a false picture of what life really is. All of this is relevant. It’s also relevant to think about how much time out of our day we take to compare ourselves to people on a damn screen. & the fact that kids are growing up with these ideas about health & what ‘fit’ looks like, but no one understands the toll it can truly take..
If someone feels badly about themselves, their feelings are valid. If someone feels inadequate because they just spent 2 hrs scrolling through pics of people with professional makeup/clothes/photo crews (who don’t mention these professionals in their posts), their feelings are valid. If someone is sick of comparing themselves to others & boycotts social media, you guessed it- VALID FEELINGS. Being bombarded with images of perfection creates a lot of confusion in our brains..
Maybe you don’t even exercise, but you follow fitness accounts anyway in hopes you’ll become motivated to start exercising. In reality, the posts from these accounts probably just make you sad because you just don’t want to exercise. It’s okay if you don’t like to workout! Stop trying to convince yourself that you do via social media envy. You’re choosing to reinforce an image of what you wish you were- instead of being happy with the person you actually are.
We all have some level of demons/negative self-talk that happens regardless of these Gram woes. But it’s important to pay attention to how these images influence the way you think about yourself. When I see a fitness model who looks flawless after a workout I sort of resent the fact that I will never look that good in the gym….ever….because I don’t have a group of people whose job is to make me look great….
Not in a million years will I have a so-called “perfect” body.
I might never eat clean for a consistent period of time.
I don’t think I see myself working out in a sports bra anytime soon (never happening).
I will always eat carbs.
If I ever have abs it will be a miracle.
I know all of these things, & I’m completely content with that knowledge 98.9% of the time. But that 1.1% feels a lot bigger when I’m looking through Instagram…shiit
So the moral of the story: Remind yourself of what reality is like. Go out & realize that the average person isn’t perfect- even if they appear to be. Most people have rolls when they sit…even if they workout regularly. I can speak for myself & say that I do not look attractive when I work out, nor do all of my gym outfits match/smell pleasant..
It’s all good! Our flaws make us who we are!! Everyone has things they want to work on, but that’s why we’re all human.
Here’s a guided meditation for shutting down negative energy. Embrace the funk 🙂
~peace & all good~